Tuesday, July 6, 2010


The most taunting situation in life is facing insult in a group or social circle. Being insulted in front of a group is an assault to self respect. At any point of life, everyone has faced this situation. Insult can come from your co-workers, friends, seniors etc.

Mostly, insults use to happen in front of a public. There may be many reasons for this, like the pleasure of knocking you down before the mass, making you a subject of laughs etc.

Never take the insults too deep to heart because it may harm your self confidence. Keep your buoyancy unbroken.
If it is possible you can avoid him or the group. In most cases it is not possible because the mass may be your co-workers or people whom you are suppose to meet more often. Here ‘walk away’ strategy also will not work out.

It is not necessary that you should handle bullying with your mouth. Sometimes silence or a sharp look is enough for the insulter. With this others may feel that what he has done is not appropriate. But if you really feel that his behavior is going to make a big damage to your individuality, there is no harm in using few words back. But the point that should be noted here is that you should be more careful with the words that you choose. This should not bring more harm to the situation.

Another way-out is holding your patience and wait for you time. When you get a reason, pull him down. But this should be in a diplomatic way. You should not be a bad guy in front of others.

Let me conclude with a story that I once heard, which I think will be apt for this subject:

An old man was sitting in a coffee shop. One drunkard shows up and sits near him. For no reason this drunkard starts using bad words to him. Old man remains calm and sips the tea. The abusing goes non-stop; still our senior is engaged in drinking tea.
After some time he turns to the bad guy and asks:” Tell me, if you are giving a present to someone and he does not take it, whose is that gift then?”
“Of course mine you idiot, because it was me who gifted that” he replies.
The old man smiles and says: “You are true my kid. I am not taking your bad words, It is all yours.”

>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>><<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<< When you have to put up with mean and hateful people, think of them as sandpaper. They may scratch you, rub you the wrong way, but eventually you end up smooth and polished...and the sandpaper...it’s just gonna be worn out and ugly


  1. This is good information. There is another type of (professional and social) insult, and that is to be ignored or blown off as if you are insignificant. This may be in the form of being ignored, or outright fired, insulted or excluded to the point where the victim is uncomfortable and quits or retreats.
    This can happen because of jealousy and insecurity manifesting in negative human behavior in groups. It is human nature for a group to unconsciously and sometimes consciously gang up on, alienate or reject a selected member (threat) of the group. Also, a person may be targeted because he or she is "too nice", making him vulnerable and sensitive.
    This (aggressive and passive aggressive) behavior actually forms a common ally and strengthens the group, even though it is ruthless and unfair for the target.

  2. Excellent post! Insults can hurt a person and no one likes them..I believe when people make insults it's because they lack something within themselves so they have to make others feel bad so that they can feel good about themselves.

  3. Excellent post, I like the term you used: Keep your buoyancy unbroken.